Posted by Stacey Revie on Feb 27, 2012 in Before Baby Arrives, Blog, Breastfeeding Challenges, Lactation Consulting, Parenting Your Breastfed Baby | 4 comments
I often get asked which sleep/routine book I recommend for babies. The answer is a difficult one – there are so many out there. What I usually ask mothers of new babies is why they expect their baby to be in a routine? I felt pressure from a whole range of people to ‘have my baby in a routine’. As a first time mum, I thought this was something I really had to instil in my baby. I thought that as ‘good parents’ we had to teach our baby to sleep through, feed at predictable times and have a nap when it was convenient for me. It wasn’t until later that I became more educated about breastfeeding. This helped me realised how trying to get babies to ‘fit in’ to our expectations instead of tuning in to our baby’s needs can compromise some people’s ability to breastfeed. Some breastfeeding issues do effect a baby’s ability to sleep or settle, and if you’re concerned that this is the case you can contact me to see if a consultation would be appropriate. Some of the side-effects of enforcing a routine on your baby can be detrimental to breastfeeding. If your baby is crying because they are hungry and this cry is not heeded, at least two things happen. The baby will not have his needs met and the mother’s breasts do not receive the stimulation they need to maintain her milk supply. If this continues, a baby is at risk of poor weight gains and the mother is at risk of a diminishing supply. Sometimes, like me, hindsight tells us we could have made better choices. Do I like any of these books? Absolutely. Any book which supports a mother to listen to and respond gently to her baby has a role to play. Having a variety of tools in your ‘parenting toolbox’ can be a great benefit. If you’re looking for a book to help you with some parenting, sleeping and breastfeeding issues, I suggest you read whatever you like – take from it things that you think suit your parenting style, is gentle with it’s approach, and supports feeding your baby when they are hungry – and discard the rest. As babies get older, they often find their own natural pattern of feeding and sleeping. When we tune in to our babies, we are more likely to pick up on...
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